22nd February 2019- Hi everyone I promised to write something about anxiety today. So I start by explaining what is anxiety and how can you help yourself when you are feeling anxious, or your partner if she/ he is struggling with anxiety.
Every person feels anxious from time to time. Feelings of increased blood pressure are helpful in certain situations. For example when we have to take an exam or going for a job interview. In those situations when we feel naturally nervous are body becomes more focused and we are able to concentrate more and provide amazing answers to the questions asked.
Our body reaction to a stressful or scary situation is to ‘flight’ or ‘fight’. What that means is when we are experiencing difficulties in our life our physical body has two choices: to either ‘flight’- to run away from the stressful situation or ‘fight’ – stay in this situation and try to cope with it. The anxiety happens when we are experiencing prolonged periods of stressful situations, where we feel unable to cope physically and mentally with whatever life throws at us.
‘How to support my partner when they feel anxious?’
Anxiety affects the way we think, the way we behave and the way we feel. Feeling anxious is different to all. Sometimes we can have the following symptoms: dry mouth, racing heartbeat, feeling thirsty, lack of appetite, unable to rest so the sleep at night is affected that means we are tired all the time.
When your partner suffers from anxiety you need to show them support, by letting them know you are there if they need you. You won’t be able to rationalize the way your partner feels, because anxiety feeling is often misunderstood by the person themselves, and anxiety often feels like an irrational feeling, difficult to explain why it’s’ happening.
Every person feels differently when they are anxious, so it is helpful to try different things to help yourself or the person you care about. Mindfulness ( I will talk about mindfulness next time), gentle physical activity such as walking, listening to relaxing music, gardening, seeing friends are the activities that can be tried when you feel anxious. It is also a very good practice to try to commit daily to practices that help you calm down, relax and become you again.
Hope that’s helpful, thanks for reading, see you next week